Sometimes we all need someone to stay beside and listen to us but needing to people all the time is not a good habit. We face the situation where we feel ourself as a needy and somewhere we all want to vanish this manner. Here I’ll share a few ideas about how to stop being clingy.
Give priority to yourself
First of all, spend time with yourself and try to know your worth because if you will respect yourself only then the world is gonna respect you. You must be aware of your needs, wants and your values. You should work on your skills, hobbies and your specialities. You should try to understand the root cause of being needy like which feelings brings you to be needy? Which circumstances proves you as a clingy? Because once you will be well aware of the reason then you will be able to get resolve from it. You know low self-esteem always leads to multiple crises in our behaviour, therefore we need to work on increasing the level of self-esteem. Once you start helping yourself then you don’t need someone else to help.
Put your points and stop being agreeable.
One thing is clear that people love to be with someone who has their own point of views, believes, faith and their own decisions, therefore stop being agreeable and try to put your own opinion and ideas. Whenever you are part of any conversation stop using sentences like “as your wish, Do as you prefer, I’ll follow you, it’s okay etc”. It shows that you have no thoughts, you are unable to confront yourself. It’s not essential to being right all the time but at least try to express yourself.
Make more buddies
When we have a few friends we call them more repeatedly and soon we end up with disappointment. They might get frustrated by our constant need to talk therefore we must have more friends in our life. We should never depend on one person otherwise it will demonstrate our clinginess.
Stop phoning so often.
Every people have their own personal life, their own priorities, therefore, stop calling and texting them so often. Give them space as well as time to be ready. When you give space to others then it shows that you are also a self-conscious person. It indicates that you have your own preferences, you are not dominated by others. You know calling someone more continually makes them feel that you are deprived.
One best way to stop being clingy is to prove that you are enough for yourself. When you learn to solve your own dilemmas, you gonna start enjoying sharing problems with yourself. See It’s okay to feel needy but it’s not okay to depend on others. We all are same and we face the same problems but the only difference is the way we handle it.
“In times of your need, you will know those who really love you.”
Lailah Gifty Akita