I still remember when I was in school, how one of my close friends talked behind me. He used to comment on my every single activity, from my dressing sense to my smile. I am an introverted girl, therefore, I never had the guts to speak up. I only used to share with my mum, she is a mentor in my life. As I grew up I understand that it’s not just a school matter but it gonna happen everywhere. My mum taught me a few techniques to deal with the problems of backbiting, she prepared me to solve my problems.

So here I will share a few strategies that gonna help you.

1. Speak up

The blind trust will lead you to the end of the relationship. If you feel that someone is speaking about you then go and ask them. Don’t just trust a person who informs you. You should ask them in private, why they talk behind you? Is there any misunderstanding between both of you? Don’t blame anyone, better ask reasonably that I heard something… Did you talk about me… Did you say sometimes or might be just a misunderstanding? If you will honestly go to them and asks them., there will be a possibility that they won’t talk about you in future. It will help you to overcome the situation. Your mind will be relaxed and the soul will be at peace.

2. It’s their mindset

She is over smart…she is a sympathy gainer…he is a player…she is not a good friend….he is dumb….. this all is the mindset of others. There is no truth in it. It’s just their perception, their insecurities or might be it happens because of jealousy. Just feel free to accept who you are instead of keeping yourself in the box of others’ perceptions.
It’s human behaviour that we accept what others talk about us and forget who we are. Don’t even try to prove that whatever people talking about you is wrong because when you try to prove, you accept that it’s somewhere your fault. So basically when you are full of good qualities, people start feeling envy and start talking about you. Because somehow they want to be you or better than you. And if they Lose attention they will start talking about you.

3 Ignore

One of my favourite techniques to deal with any uncontrollable problem is to ignore it. Some people possess a born habit of talking behind. Even if you will clear it out they will come up with new stuff. So in that situation instead of being hampered, you should ignore them. This is the only way to deal with this kind of people because no matter how hard you will try they will not change their minds.

Final thought

You know a little thought can give birth to a mental illness therefore I must say that fuck the people who interfere with your personal life. This backbiting is a childish thing and we must know how to handle them. Now we are mature enough to confront and share whatever we are feeling. We should never allow this kind of people around us, even we should not do this kind of stuff. Be yourself and trust the way you are.